How To Melt Down Difficult People.
By Dr. James. A McBean D.Th., MCC
Copyright © 2008 Library of Congress
o fight an idea, you must use another idea. To kill a bacteria, you must use another bacteria. To fight an attitude, you must use another attitude. To deal with difficult people, you have to go to simple, but extreme measures. Just seeing certain people and hearing them can poison your spirit. Difficult people are like that because it get them the attention they need. You have to find a way to deprive them of their attention source. Once you deprive them off their attention source. They begin to melt down. They became like a wolf with a broken fang.
Hard To Get, Stay On The Shelves.
For example, a person that are playing hard to get, and are acting like there is no other person on the planet; have what they got. These are behaving like this because they are truly lonely, and this is their way of saying “Try to get me, try harder” It is a challenge the person is throwing out. Many people crave the satisfaction to be seen accepted by such difficult people.
The best way to deal with hard to get people is let them stay on the shelves. Move out of their faces, let them be. After awhile loneliness eat them up and that smoke screen blown away.
The way to bag and turn this kind of person is not to see them at all. While working in the hospital, with old white patients, when the relatives walk in the room and saw a black man giving care to the old mother, they start acting like I am not in the room, only their mother is in the room. I started to act like they are not in the room either; it is only the mother and me is in the room. This person suddenly feel the rejection coming back to them and melted down, and apologized for their actions in the first place. These kind of people cannot take what they been dishing out to people.
People With A Chip On The Shoulder.
Make them keep the chips on the shoulder, make it weighed them down. You must not be the one to knock the chip off. You will have to constantly working and updating your skills, so you do not need to spent the rest of your life working along side and working under the authority of certain people kind of people.
Dealing With Miss Elite.
Miss Elite think and act like she is the only female in town. And no body else blessing is as big as her's. Well! You keep it. When people separate you from their company, stay out of it, and do not act like you want to be among them. When people hiding stuff from you, do not seek to know, because really and truly they have nothing hiding, it is just a mind game they are playing. They are silently asking you to suck up on them.
Sucking Up Request.
Death treats, fire treats, write up treats are (sometime) a sucking up request. What the person is asking silently is “Suck up to me, try to be my friend, try to push up into my clique, try to be belonging to us” The way to deal with this is to use the same isolation techniques. “I do not want to be among you” “I do not want to suck up on somebody like that” Any game people are playing on you. You will have to use the same game or find the reverse for that game. You came in the room and saw me and act as if do not exist! As far as I am concern, that person does not exist either.
Contentious Family Member.
All of us islanders who live in Canada, England and the United States, know what it mean to have some contentious family member living in the Islands. No Matter how much you give them, and do for them, they never stop complaining. The way to deal with this kind of people is to isolate them. The more of you resources that you dump out on them, they will use it on set themselves up, to show off on you if you return. Feed beloved enemy when you have nothing better to do, and whenever it is convenient to you, but you must never nourish or set them up. When you set up a unthankful family member, you are giving them financial power to crush you like a cockroach in time to come.
Dealing With Religious Fanatics.
I do not want you to loose your religion, and take up mine. Encourage them to stay with their religion. If it is working out for you and keeping you happy and fulfilled, why should you leave it for mine.
No Man Is Good Enough For Her.
She is right. Therefore, stop trying to get her. If this kind of woman spit in your face; no soap invented by man can wash it off. Sirach 9: 2 “Give No Woman power over you to trample upon your dignity”. Page 779. The New American Bible. Saint Joseph Edition.
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Hen people do not want to hear from you. Have nothing to say to them. When people do not want to see you, as soon as you find it out, stay away from them.
Nothing turn people inside out like when you find a way to mirror them, by reversing their actions.
Sometime Only Jesus Can Help Us
Acts 4:12 (KJV)Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved.
Romans 5:6 (KJV)
For when we were yet without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly.
Romans 5:7 (KJV)
For scarcely for a righteous man will one die: yet peradventure for a good man some would even dare to die.
Romans 5:8 (KJV)
But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.
Romans 5:9 (KJV)
Much more then, being now justified by his blood, we shall be saved from wrath through him.
Romans 5:10 (KJV)
For if, when we were enemies, we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more, being reconciled, we shall be saved by his life.
Romans 5:11 (KJV)
And not only so, but we also joy in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, by whom we have now received the atonement.
Matthew 6:33-AV But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his
righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Isaiah 55:6-AV Seek ye the LORD while he may be found, call ye
upon him while he is near:
Isaiah 55:7-AV Let the wicked forsake his way, and the
unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the LORD,
and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will
The Bearer’s Of The “Mind Sword”
|A bird eye view is given, a voice is heard, a man is enlightened, a soul is saved.